What happens when you decide you want to expand your erotic self-pleasure or start exploring it, can you imagine the possibilities? Maybe you can, maybe you have already started or maybe you're having the thoughts of not even knowing where or how to begin this expansion I speak of.
I don't like the shame surrounding sex. I think accepting sexuality and giving people the freedom to express their sexuality is important and vital to human existence. Sometimes the best way to combat shame is to share our own experiences. So I asked a few people about the first time they ever decided to explore their own bodies.
SEX. Sex is difficult. Sex for some of us is very hard to talk about. Sex holds a space of shame, judgment, pain and unfulfilled pleasure at moments. Sex doesn’t feel good in our bodies because of a lack of safety and past traumatic sexual experiences. Some of us have felt an overall sense of shut down and resentment. And… with all of that, we feel at times, still, engage in that sexual act hoping it will change and feel better, it will be great or sometimes it has been!
As I was growing up I didn't realize everything that went into my overall wellness, I especially didn't realize or know about my sexual wellness. And, how that actually played a part in my overall wellness. I saw these as separate, not connected. I had no real education on sex, to begin with, probably much like you, abstinence was the thing being taught (unfortunately it still is).
Do you currently feel or have felt in the past overwhelmed, exhausted, reclusive or unmotivated? I think that most of us have felt at least one of these things within our relationship designs at some point or time period of our life. When you're feeling any one of these it puts a strain on the connection within your relationship. I have had those feelings a lot at moments throughout my life, none of us are immune.
Last week disappointment was part of my feels... you know when I lost all of what I had written to you in my love news. Yep, that happened. This mess up pretty quickly turned into something I could see would be helpful to all of us, if I could pull it together and get the new words written out. I took a minute to celebrate myself for the time frame and the process to which I moved through this moment. Really a huge win in my book! Why was it a huge win?
There is a lot of talk out there about Female Ejaculation also known as “Squirting”. Some people are still saying this doesn’t happen or it is just urine. Facts are, this is not made up, it does happen and I’m not peeing on you! Get some answers now!
This simple fact is something I have spent to much time thinking and worrying about. I am not alone. Perhaps I should start a 12 step program for “normal people” who are insecure about their physical attributes, because negative self talk is absolutely an addiction and is preventing most people from fully enjoying their lives. This Insecurity of mine fluctuates depending on how confident I feel overall at any given time and it will strike with a vengeance in very specific situations.